The right questions give you the correct answers, let’s look at how the dictionary defines stress; a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances. The second definition is the best, how we react when we feel under pressure or threatened. So stress is how we react and as we know, how we react is 100% dependent on how we think, and we are the ones in charge of our thinking thus stress is simply a process of trying to define something. Very simple. But we cannot resist urgent situations that require immediate attention, thus producing different reactions (stress), so here are simple ways to stay on course.
What you do not know will eventually hurt you.Daniel Kahneman
A. Find your purpose; why live and not die?
Why purpose? because when you do not know what you want, everything can be accepted. ‘Family First Theory’ has proven that we as human beings are able to leave any other issue and focus on certain important things. More research has shown how selfish we can be by choosing ourselves instead of the family that raised us. We are able to focus on what we chose to and that’s what we do every day.
If you don’t know where you are heading to, any road will get you there.Mj Demarco
Purpose is deeply rooted inside you, but you need to find it. Nothing happens without a cause. The cup on the table will be there for 10 years if nobody ever moves it. Everything happens the same way. You were built with something; every manufacturer builds something with a purpose. The speakers have a purpose; the phone or computer in your hands has a purpose; your eyes have a purpose; your ears, nose, legs, hands—everything has a purpose, including you. Yours is the most important. There are no specific concepts for discovering your purpose, just as you cannot copy organizational goals and missions into yours; something will go wrong, and authenticity comes from within. Purpose feels like doing something you will not regret, doing it every day without complaining, and waking up each morning for it. It’s called “purpose,” a very beautiful discovery.
There are two important days in a man’s life, the day he was born and the day he found out why.Mark Twain
The best thing about understanding what you want to do is that you will know exactly who to talk to, who to avoid, who to spend time with, and what to do per time. You will accurately know the Man or the woman to go out on a date with. It focuses your energy to something, It makes you feel important, and mostly, makes you be important. Purpose creates Vision, Vision is knowing the path that will accomplish your purpose.
Stress is simply blindness, not seeing forward but here is a hope for you, find your purpose and when you do, do it like it will be the last thing you will ever do.
B. Release your Past; bid a bye bye
From the Bible verses to the motivational speakers; all sing this song. The past is not a story, just events that happened every single day with no prediction of tomorrow. What we do is create a story about it, make it flow, believe it then share it. It’s all wrong. Remember you have power over your thoughts, yes you cannot delete a memory but concentrating on it gives it power over you. The Sharks are the most feared animal in the sea world because of their famous character; adaptability.
Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup.Bruce Lee
You are not your mind, your mind is not you and it is the mind that holds the thoughts, so learn new things, give it new things to think of, read interesting books, learn a new skill, change your old habits and your old friends then your old self will disappear without notice. What you keep thinking is what you will get.
C. Accept Reality as it is; not as you wish
We all want to drive a good car, own a house, have a family, be a good dad or mom, be the best husband and wife, live a life free of struggles and worries, marry at 25, and many other things. But most of the time, reality gets rude and just does not give us what we want. Well, that’s because we live in our minds, not in the real world. Our generation is more connected online than offline, and the real world is offline. The clash creates confusion, but it’s more comfortable being online than offline, so we end up choosing online all the time. Don’t get me wrong; you can achieve your dreams, and I want you to, and online is a good place to be, but when we spend most of our time there, it creates an illusion in our minds, and we are comfortable, which is not good.
The truth is not always beautiful, nor beautiful the real world.Lao Tzu
Our IQ (Intelligent Quotient) is the highest followed by dolphins, thus making us very creative. We have the best ideas, revolutionary ideas that can change the world and make us great. But if we don’t engage the physical world, the real world, and test the ideas, they will all be in vain. Learn to connect what you think by approval of doing it. Anything of success has results and results are seen in the real world.
D. Learn to Learn
Learning never stops, you learn when you make a mistake or you can learn from other’s mistakes. Experience is the best teacher they say but it’s not. Be blendable, accept it when you don’t know, and be eager to learn when being taught. You will learn a lot by just listening. There are no mistakes in life, only lessons. What you already know is not final, you still have a lot to learn like you just did. Am also looking to learn from you so don’t forget to leave a comment.
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